Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Little treasures...

Do you ever have parenting moments where you are caught out thinking the worst of your kids?

I do.

I guess I'm a bit of a helicopter parent in that we have family rules that are standard, and I expect them to be followed. And lately, if they're not, I'm too quick to assume the kids are doing the wrong thing.

Like the other day.

We parked at the shopping centre, when Mr 10 got out and starting running off in the opposite direction to the way we planned to go.

Now our family rules include that: A. We don't run in shopping centre carparks, and B. We wait until everyone is ready and we walk off together. So I was pretty damn snarky and was about to call Chase back, when I saw exactly why he was running.

Nearby, was a lightly-built young woman with a toddler, vainly trying to stop her shopping trolley from tipping over as she pushed it over a gutter.

Chasse was by her side in seconds, manfully righting the trolley and setting her on her way.

"You're welcome," he shouted over his shoulder, as he ran back to me.

My heart melted a little bit right then.

Then just this morning we were trying on school shoes again (don't ask), when something clearly caught his eye and he took off.

Now Chase does get distracted easily, and of course, the first thing I thought was that he'd spotted something far more interesting than school shoes.

And so he had.

But it wasn't an expensive toy, new D-Mag, or a mate as I'd expected. It was a lady in a mobility scooter who was having trouble turning into one of the aisles. (I swear department stores are making the aisles smaller and more difficult to manouvre through than ever before).

"Need some help?" my son asked the old lady.

She clearly did, and with a smile, she allowed him to help her on her way.

"Sorry Mum, I just like to help people out," Chase said when he came back.

Awww ...

Lucky none of his mates were around, because I had to hug him, right there and then.

And just recently, we were clattering down the stairs and into the car for school, when Harmonie suddenly stopped in her tracks.

"Come on kids, we're late," I began, thinking she'd forgotten something or suddenly needed to go to the loo.

"Wait Mum, there's something little here and it's alive!"

She was right!

My little wildlife warrior had found an abandoned baby possum, all pink and tiny and mewling for its mother. A few ants had started crawling on it, and kind-hearted Miss 8 burst into tears.

"Mum I don't want it to die. We can't let it die! What can we do?"

I didn't know, but I was pretty sure our local vet would have a good idea.

I dispatched H. to find a pillow case - luckily the washing basket was handy. Ahem.

Then, C. gently popped the wee possum into the pillow case and held it next to his chest. I seemed to remember Bondi Vet's Dr Chris Brown cuddling a possum to his chest for body heat, (insert sigh ...), so I figured it would be okay.

We took the possum to the vet, where we told a wildlife carer would take it home and mother it. The kids were allowed to say goodbye to it, although Harmonie is still upset she wasn't able to look after it herself!

It's a cliche, but it's special moments like these that make all the sleepless nights, wiping of bums, cleaning up of sick, and de-lousing of hair worthwhile, isn't it?

I just wish I wasn't so quick to jump to the wrong conclusion.

It's nice to be reminded that my kids are great.

Sometimes I lose track of the fact that I'm actually doing quite a good job of raising them, and I just have to have faith in that. And them.

And now for today's Mental Health Kindness Giveaway.

Since this post has a parenting theme, I thought I'd offer up a gift pack of children's books from New Frontier Publishing.

This very generous prize features four books from New Frontier's Little Treasures range, which aim to uplift and inspire children - and their parents.

Focussing on international themes like love, family, environment and self-worth, the giveaway includes a copy each of Peter Carnavas's books:

Jessica's Box
Last Tree in the City
Sarah's Heavy Heart
The Important Things

These books are also fitting for my Mental Health Kindness Giveaways (giveaway #2 is here), because they would be helpful for children struggling to deal with death, anxiety, fear, friendship and love.

The last one, about a mother and son moving on after his Dad has died, is particularly poignant.

Each book is valued at $14.95, and they are all aimed at ages 4-6 years.

To enter, check you are following this blog and then leave a comment below sharing one of your favourite moments with children. You don't have to be a parent; you can be an aunt, uncle, grandparent, or good friend to a child who you think would love these picture books.

Entries will close on October 25, 2012.

My own little treasures...
And where is Dr Chris Brown when you need him?


Mum on the Run said...

I'm guilty of that too.
But, having met a number of parents who (mistakenly)could never imagine their precious angels setting a single foot wrong - we might be in a good way acknowledging that our kids are likely to mess up a bit.

I couldn't possible choose a fave kid moment. Too too many.
I loved the kid who, when we were talking about the Bible and Parables, put his hand up and said "Is that like, one parable (Powerball) and I'm outta here?"

Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella said...

Oh what gorgeous kids you have Bronnie! I loved reading these stories-it gives you hope for future generations! You're doing such a great job with them :D

Ella Clean said...

Oh, my god, this is such a lovely story! Your little man is growing up fast and not so little now because he is already a gentleman!

One of my Hobby Blogs said...

oh of course I do! but hey, I always try to act like I'm not sure until i'm sure it is a naughty thing!!

Natalie said...

I nearly got a bit teary reading that post.. how wonderful is your son to be that considerate of others and rush to help them :)
My little one is less than a year old so those kind of actions are a little far away yet, but I just love watching her eyes light up when she sees something that fascinates her - like another little child in a shopping centre. She smiles, points and says 'oooo' in the cutest way. Hopefully this develops into a caring, kind attitude towards others in years to come.

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Sarah said...

Oh my your children are so sweet and kind.
Last night The Princess lost me (I was outside searching for some missing hens). But since she couldn't find me she lost it and was screaming the house down. Eventually I made my way inside to find Mr Magoo giving her cuddles trying to comfort her.

Anonymous said...

Love this blog, you are doing a fantastic job with the kids, so caring. If you find Dr Brown, send him my way, hubba hubba. Amber

Ms_MotorbikeNut said...

That's like the time our daughter A use to go to Rangers she took off from her commander and he was going to have words, till he found her helping another Ranger who was only 4 years old & crying to tie her shoelaces.

(((( Hugs )))) XXXX Kisses XXXX

Anonymous said...

THANK YOU for raising such great kids. I am thrilled to have them in our society :)

Kylie said...

Wow, how to choose a fav kid moment. My 2yr old saw my 4yr old asleep o the lounge. She went over, placed her blanket on her, tucked it in, kissed her and whispered "Goodnight, love you". I do this every night and again before I got to bed, so it was so touching to see her do it to her sister.

Unknown said...

Thanks so much, and I loved hearing your stories too. It's so great to catch our kids being good, isn't it? And the winner is Kylie, please send me your details, preferably via email or DM on twitter Kylie, so I can send out your prize.