Friday, June 1, 2012

Happily ever after?

Am I?

Happy I mean?

After all, that's the sub-title to my blog, and every now and then, I take a moment to take stock.

Heaven knows, there haven't been too many moments to just stop these past few months.

Life is always busy, but lately it's been crazily so. Some of it has been in a crazy-good way. Kind of fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants gear, but good all the same. And some of it has been bone-achingly awful.

But that's life, isn't it? And navigating our way through the crappy periods - and as I'm learning, helping our children to do the same - makes experiencing the sheer joy of the ecstasy life can bring, so much sweeter.

So yes. There have been moments of happiness. Of bliss. Of laughter. Lightness. Fun.

Back when I started writing this blog, I doubted I would ever really experience that again. Well outside of my life with my children.

And then my world of happy expanded. And the periods of happiness became longer and more frequent. More familiar. A part of my life. Surprise!

I don't know if I'll ever be happy all of the time.

Is anyone ever?

I think movies, books, the media, and perhaps the own fairytales in our minds have a lot to be responsible for when it comes to expectations. We expect the fairytale ending. We expect life to be perfect. But life has ways of throwing curveballs when we least expect it. Illness, injury, death, challenges, sadness, break-ups, stress, money problems, relationship hassles, all kinds of battles. Luckily there are good changes too. Love, cuddles, achievements, sex, strength, friendship, recovery and more.

So, for me, it's okay not to live happily ever after. At least not all of the time.

But if you can go after as much happiness as you can experience - and enjoy every moment of it when it's yours - now that's a realistic dream to follow.

Am I wrong? Am I cynical? More importantly, am I missing out?

Here are a few things that have made me happy recently ...


Cousins, kayaking


And leaping into life!


Fish and chips on the beach at Redcliffe, Qld


A pair of nice melons. (Taken at the recent Kingaroy Show, Qld).


A giant willy. (Also at the Kingaroy Show).


Sunset at my sister and brother-in-law's farm. 


And taking the time to savour it.

Bliss.

This post is part of Picklebums' Real Life Wednesday series. Pop over to visit her here.

13 comments:

Eileen said...

Why can't you want and expect happiness? It's often the most unexpected or tiny things that bring a smile to your face that make you happy. This blog has made me happy! Keep striving for it Bron. You've got nothing to lose you know.
Leenie. xx

toushka lee said...

That sunset is gorgeous. We can't be ecstatic all the time. I think we can strive for happy moments and a base of contentment. It's the darkness that makes the light seem brighter right?

Maria Tedeschi said...

Sounds advice there Bronnie. I think I need to listen to that advice.

Love & stuff
Mrs M

Lee Caroline said...

I've just stumbled across your blog, I am across the ditch...New Zealand to be precise ☺...Another fellow blogger but only been blogging 12 months.

I giggled like anything reading your "about", so cleverly written. I have added myself as a follower both google and Networked blogs as I don't want to miss out on your witty posts.

Hope you get a chance to visit my blog, its not witty but I do try to inspire with my passion for interior design and all things beautiful.

Lee ☺

macsnorky said...

It's about perspective and balance too. You can't truly savour the good times without experiencing the bad, unfortunately. Often the bad times teach us a lot about ourselves as well, learning from mistakes that might have got us where we are. And learning how to make ourselves feel better, get back to our happy place.

It all keeps things interesting and exciting :)
xxx

Bronnie Marquardt said...

Thanks lovelies. You are all so wise. I also think there is a lot to said for treasuring the small moments, because together, they make up a lot!

Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella said...

It's definitely about stopping and seeing moments of happiness. Love your list Bronnie :)

Hsin-Yi said...

Well, you know what they say - you can't appreciate something unless you have somethign to compare it to. Yin & Yang. So I actually think that people have nothing to stress about, got it all easy, have it made, etc, etc - are pretty miserable and always searching and unfulfilled (look at Hollywood!)

But I think aside from being happy, it's important to recognise the moments of happiness - coz there are some people out there who are determined pessimists and misery-guts, who wouldn't appreciate their chances of happiness even if it jumped up & smacked them in the face! :-) So I think the ability to appreciate & cherish the happy moments in your life - and to find happiness in the most unlikely places - is what makes a person a winner.

That's why there are those who seem to have such a tough life and yet are fulfilled & happy, Vs, those who have "everything" and are still miserable as sin! :-)

Hsin-Yi

Mrs Catch said...

Love photos of a rising moon. That made me happy. Thank you.

Removal said...

Happiness is not waiting for the rain to stop but learn to dance in the rain. It doesn't depend on outer circumstances but on the inner state of the mind. Happiness depends entirely on you- so find it, grab it, live your life feeling happy.

kelley @ magnetoboldtoo said...

fish and chips on the beach.

Adding it to my 'shit I gotta do more often' list.

x

katepickle said...

Love love LOVE this post.

I think we sometimes self sabotage ourselves thinking we should be 'more happy'... and I know when I start counting up happiness it usually makes me less happy.

Marita said...

Small moments build up to longer lasting contentment and happiness I find. The big bang splashy happiness fades as quickly as it arrives.